✅ Parents: This is my personal experience after interacting with thousands of children, teens, and adolescents. They claim they are disturbed because of their parents. Few parents may not like it, but this is one of the major facts. एक कहावत है "जब बाड़ ही खेत की फसल खाने लगे तो खेती भगवान भरोसे हो जाती है" In the entire universe, parents should be the best mental health counselor for their children. Nowadays, the parents' kid's relationship itself is the core reason for poor mental health. A good number of reasons are involved.
✅ Working Couple - Due to their ambitions and priorities, unable to pay attention
✅ Over Attention/ Care - Do not offer space - Parents want to interrupt or be involved in everything.
✅ Do not understand - Career mapping and planning imposed by parents do not support interests, skills of their kids.
✅ Negligence - Due to a busy schedule or negligence, parents overlook symptoms of emotional changes in their kids.
✅ Poor/ Aggressive Reaction - On the mistakes or failure of kids, most parents, rather than supporting, exhibit an aggressive reaction. After all, this the time when they can show they are parents.
✅ Nuclear family - The increasing trend of the nuclear family is another big reason for poor mental health
✅ Poor relationship between parents - This is the worst gift you can offer to your kids. You are polluting the emotional growth of your kids. Sometimes kids start taking advantage of these.
✅ Domestic flights and abusive language - Children do not learn; they are taught. Children learn what they see. Do not blame only your kid's - genetically, and from a grooming point of view, you are equally responsible.
✅ Higher expectations - Without understanding their kids' potential for social image and secure future - childhood is ruined.
✅ Comparison - This is one of the most irritating feelings for anyone and parents have a Ph.D. in this
✅ Family environment -Very strict or Very lenient - मेरा पास इतना पैसा है किस दिन काम आयेगा - बच्चों को हर चीज आगे से आगे Avaible करवाना वो कभी चीजों की Value ही नहीं समझ पाते few are so strict they have all the resources but ...
✅ Generation gap - बच्चे तो समझदार नहीं हैं लेकिन आप तो समझदार हैं
✅ Sexual abuse - You would be surprised to know in sexual abuse cases, most of the time, relatives and parents' close friends are involved. One more fact in a survey. it is reported that Boys face more sexual abuse than Girls.
Discrimination - If 2 Kid or more, I am not so important to my parents
1. "They Don't Understand Us." a common statement that I heard from kids.
2. Excessive use internet
3. Traumatic Conditions - Business Loss/ Divorce/ Losing someone close to you
5. Social Stigma - Like poverty, Skin Tone, etc.
6. Physical health
7. Unemployment/ Lossing Job - Debt
8. Bullying
9. Addictions
10. Life Style Factors - Sleeping and Eating Patterns etc.
11. Frequent changes in school or places
12. Insecure Relationship
13. Low Self-esteem
Does Child/ Teen/ Adolescent Counseling Work and How It Works?
Much research has proven that it is highly effective in approximately 50% of cases, with 35 to 40% having little or medium benefit and 10 to 15% as such no benefit (They need medical treatment).
Now let’s understand How it works.
Step# 1 Trust Building
Step# 2 Interaction - Problem Identification - Reconfirmation of Problem - Root Cause Identification
Step# 3 Goal Setting - Objective Setting of counseling - Build Self-Esteem and emotional Awareness, Improve Communication Skills, Gain Confidence, Overcome guilt or past pain, Overcome social anxiety disorder, Healthy relationships, etc.
Step# 4 Divison of Role and Responsibility - What counselor will do, the child and the parents
Step# 5 Counselling
Step# 6 Review the Outcome and Take necessary steps accordingly
Is It Entirely Depends Upon The Counselor or Does a Couple Also Has To Play Some Role?
Both have their critical role in this process if you visit the best doctor in the world for any reason don’t take prescribed medicines, and do not follow the precautions suggested by him. What will be the outcome? Same here
A relationship counselor is here to help you, guide you, support you, and correct you but if you don’t want to improve, nobody can’t help. कहते हैं ना भगवान भी उनकी मदद करता है जो खुद अपनी मदद करते हैं|
We face both types of cases; sometimes, the Child is forced to visit and deliberately wants to meet. However, people who genuinely wish to improve - get substantial results with the help of a child counselor.
If It Is So Helpful, Then Why Do People Not Visit A Relationship Counselor?
A morning walk is good for health why everyone does not go for a morning walk
Junk food is not suitable for health why everyone does not leave it
ये कुछ ऐसा ही सवाल है| लेकिन चलिये आगे समझते हैं ये कुछ ऐसा है जैसे –
Psychiatrist या Psychologist के पास जाने का मतलब आप पागल हो - Society has their own perception about many things, but I would recommend you need to work on your relationship rather social perception.
Fear - If anybody comes to know about that, it will ruin our social image. So be rest assured, all your information is confidential.
For Best Results What To Do?
Don’t Be Fake
Don’t Hide
Follow The Guidelines
Accept and Improve